The “in-crowd” is a phenomenon that somehow has always managed to make us, the individuals on the outskirts, feel inadequate–or, for the purpose of promoting Thierry’s ‘Sound it Out’ series, exiguous–-and consequently, develop a desire to be one-of as opposed to odd-one. In high school, it was the athletes and “cool kids” that we aspired to; in college, the members of fraternities; post college (real world), those who are successful and “have got it made”; and in fashion, the bloggers who have a strong influence in the menswear arena.
While there’s nothing wrong with wanting to feel a part of the trendsetters and members of the upper echelon, most of us go about it the wrong way and for the wrong reasons. We develop this idea that if we give up a part of ourselves and take on the lifestyle of others we’ll be rewarded accordingly–by association with certain people and from that, success–an unfortunate misconception. The obvious truth that often gets overlooked is that the most critical component required to “fitting in” is more of you. (That, and the hard work it takes.)
The more you embrace yourself and do away with fabricating false personalities, the more you’re able to set and pave a path that will be worth fitting into. Anyone is capable of being recognized for just about anything. Most importantly, though, that recognition will stem from the hard work, will power, and effort that person has invested into his craft. A renowned photographer or blogger or any professional would have acquired his accolades through the poignancy of his works than pretending to be something that he is not. Therefore in order to be associated with characters of the like, you, too, must do the diligent work, fueled by passion and a cause to have a significant and positive impact. Without a cause or purpose, you become just another entity in pursuit of the superficial glamor with nothing to offer.
Success is not acquired by affiliation, but by action. It’s better to do what it takes to be well versed and cultured enough that you become more relatable to different crowds than to feign personalities in hopes to be accepted by them.