To be elegant is to glide through the vagaries of life with a consistent, and understated refinement and dignity, regardless of the scenario. It, the core of elegance, is a sense of grace and humility that lingers with others long after a brief, yet pivotal interaction. There is a distinct, and nuanced, appreciation of beauty in carrying out even the most mundane duties.
Elegance is simply as making a choice between two actions. It is much more far reaching than pursuing expensive goods and services. In many respects, there is, for certain, selflessness; putting others first, listening more than speaking, deflecting praise and accepting blame. The dignified man accepts his decisions, for better or worse. The elegant man needn’t pat himself on the back; his life’s accolades are evident. He’s the protagonist to the vulgar, self-promoting antagonist on life’s stage. He is the consummate gentleman, versus playing the role of the one. It is humility and gentility working in tandem.
While one may be elegantly attired, a boorish approach negates even the finest bespoke wardrobe. Too often, the concept of elegance is firmly tied to luxury merchandise; purchasing an ideal that immediately transforms one into a gentleman with class. Elegance is an intrinsic desire to put forth greater effort in whatever ventures come one’s way, rather than behavior merely for show. It’s not found in the label sewn onto a necktie, but rather the care in which the tie knotted. The draw is for its appreciators, is in the subtle.
Elegance is cultivating a quiet dignity and beauty in every manner a gentleman conducts his life.
Kamau Hosten hails from Ocala, Florida and is the founder of The Ideal Pursuit, an online platform that celebrates better living. “Only through growth and evolution, experience and exposure, are we truly able to step out of our comfort zones.” Follow his journey on Instagram.