The Ideal Pursuit: Quiet Confidence


Within the framework of the elegant man lies a quiet confidence. He commands authority due to way he carries himself, his walk, and the manner in which he speaks and interacts with others. He glides calmly across a room, aware of himself and others’ perception of him. He exudes a casual grace, making others at ease through his relaxed demeanor. That’s the essence of quiet confidence.  
Actions and interactions are the cornerstone of confidence. That’s conveyed through means of communication, verbal and nonverbal. One may answer a question, for instance, firmly and assertively, rather than merely loudly to connote a sense of authority. The elegant, quietly confident man doesn’t rely on brute to enforce his opinions. There’s no need to drown out others since dialogue is valued.

 Kamau Hosten The Ideal Pursuit Genteel Flair 
When the clichéd idea of the masculine man is written into advertisements or plotlines, he’s typically brash. There’s an overarching need for the character to assert for his domain verbally and physically. Walking with loud, forceful steps, speaking louder and with a more aggressive tone than his counterparts. These are lingering images of what masculinity is and what it shouldn’t be. Confidence is the root of this ideology, but is expressed in an archaic form. I like to believe we’ve evolved from the barbarism (though I can’t explain the popularity of MMA) of centuries past.

Now, the concept of being quietly confident is natural for many men. Kofi Annan and Barack Obama as two obvious examples to follow. Both are eloquent, yet authoritative when they speak. And when they speak, folks listen. Of course their positions helps, but it’s also a reputation built decades prior to being on the world stage that’s the backbone of their confidence.

Elegance is, across the board, always opting for a more dignified approach. Confidence doesn’t come from brute. It’s a combination of tact and commanding authority through measured words and substantive actions, rather than reactions. It’s another component to the elegant man, to be quietly confident.

Photo by Bevin Elias.

Kamau Hosten hails from Ocala, Florida and is the founder of The Ideal Pursuit, an online platform that celebrates better living. “Only through growth and evolution, experience and exposure, are we truly able to step out of our comfort zones.” 

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Fast Fashion Frames from Firmoo

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I remember when prescription glasses were ridiculously expensive! Warby Parker shook up the business world when it went direct to consumer, setting the standard across various industries, not to mention in its own category. Glasses have been a huge part of my life and (reluctantly) a part of my look for a long time. After finally settling on a frame shape (years of work might I add), I thought I’d found my color also. Now I get to rethink some things with Firmoo.   
Tina and the team got in touch a little over two weeks ago and I already have my glasses in hand. The model is extremely efficient and easy to navigate. And unlike the limited selection of collaboration pieces and curated seasonal releases like Warby, Firmoo is adding to their range daily. As a low-cost, high turnover alternative to the normal optical supplier, Firmoo makes building a collection easy for anyone wanting to switch up their look on a regular basis. 

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I usually do tortoise shell but this burgundy pair caught my eye (pun unintended) as soon as I saw it. This shape is best to frame my face (and I matched up the sizing based on the details on the product page) and it was just about opening an account, choosing my preferred frame (they also have a try-on system if you’re on the fence or want to do something new), and then inputting my prescription information before checkout. The process was quick and relatively seamless. 

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The quality is fair for the price so again, having options is the most attractive feature. I can easily see myself replicating this in a range of colors and I think that’s a good thing. In even my most reserved tastes, I get to try something a tad bit new. 

Check them out for yourself! And with weekly flash sales, you can save even more.

Who knows? You might just find something you like.
Happy hunting!

Plated or Poured: Blueberry Crisp


I don’t bake. Not because I can’t but because I don’t have the patience for the level of detail it requires. That being said, once every now and then a dessert recipe comes along that is simple and delicious. This Blueberry Crisp is just that. Blueberries were only the fresh fruit of choice because they were on sale but a Crisp has as many variations as there are summer fruits. So feel free try it with peaches, plums or what have you. Enjoy!


6 cups (3 pints) blueberries, washed and stemmed

1⁄2 cup granulated sugar

1 1⁄4 cups flour

2⁄3 cup brown sugar

Pinch of salt

10 tbsp. cold butter



Preheat oven to 375 degrees. Make the filling: Mix blueberries and brown sugar in a bowl. Transfer to an 8-inch square baking dish.

Make the topping: Combine flour, brown sugar and a pinch of salt in another bowl. Work cold butter into flour mixture until it resembles coarse meal. Sprinkle mixture evenly over blueberries.  

Bake until blueberries are bubbling and brown on top, about 1 hour. Transfer to a wire rack, and let cool for 30 minutes before serving. Top with homemade whip cream or ice cream.

‘Plated or Poured’ is our new food and drink column featuring Rashad Frazier, a prolific home cook who hails from North Carolina and currently lives in NYC. When it comes to food and drink, he stands for everything good and righteous. You can keep up with his culinary exploits and so much more on his food and lifestyle blog, PULLEDTOGETHER.
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The Ideal Pursuit: Ease


Elegance is fluid. The graceful man exudes a certain freedom of self, allowing himself to release not all inhibitions, but arbitrary restrictions. Within him is a sense of joviality that works in tandem with a requite respect of occasion. Both are equal parts of the gentleman, neither no more important than the other. He remembers to have fun, to be accommodating, to release.

Whether one’s ambitions verge on the adventurous or the banal, attention to detail is crucial in any endeavor. However, to be truly free, to employ a spirited sense of frivolity, one mustn’t obsess over the minutiae. For it’s when that constant sense of fact-checking and rigid adherence to a subscribed set of guidelines is fostered, fun is lost. The freedom to express is lost; the fluidity is absent. The elegant man must know how and when to release. He has to loosen up.

Release and a sense of fluidity aren’t tied to a pattern of wanton bacchanalia (not all the time anyway, because that can fun occasionally), but rather finding oneself after the facts and guidelines and edicts. That’s the release, where one finds his place to discover his own interpretation of the order (within parameters). It’s following that epiphany of release and freedom one can have fun.

Grace and refinement aren’t the stodgy imagery they may conjure up. Elegance is a way of living, of exuding your truest self, in its fluid, authentic glory.

Photo by Bevin Elias.

Kamau Hosten hails from Ocala, Florida and is the founder of The Ideal Pursuit, an online platform that celebrates better living. “Only through growth and evolution, experience and exposure, are we truly able to step out of our comfort zones.” 

Follow his journey on Instagram

Style Is: Jamal Jackson


Style is…evolution.

Till this day I still choose not to define my style. Its really about my mood, how I’m feeling and what I want to convey to the world that day. Im a mix between tailored pieces that are bold and colorful. Usually when people think of a well tailored suit they think of black or blue. 
I never limit myself to any color or pattern. Id like to think dressing is an art and art is color, print, pattern, shapes. I admire the style of Mark Ronson and David Beckham. Mark Ronson a little more trendy and David Beckham, clean cut and traditional. 


Here is prime example of my style in a nutshell. Using tradition and tailoring to match my own personal style. Hers a printed short suit I wore during Fashion Week, according to readers it was awesome. However many media sites considers the short suit a waste of a trend or just a hideous look. The point is you have to develop your personal style and OWN IT.


 This is a vacation inspired look. Comfortable enough to travel in and great for a day on any island. The tropical pants make it easy. 

Jamal Jackson is the curator of Style Society Guy, a lifestyle blog that chronicles his taste in menswear, cuisine and travel. 

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